Think back to when you first met your spouse. What drew you to them? What did you do on those early dates, and do you still do any of those things today? These questions matter because as life fills with responsibilities, stress, and distractions, it’s easy to stop doing what once came naturally. We forget the simple things that built connection.

Revelation 2:4–5 (NIV) offers a powerful reminder: “You have forsaken the love you had at first. Consider how far you have fallen.” Though spoken to a specific church, the principle applies to marriage as well. The church was doing many good things, yet God pointed out that they had left their first love. It’s a question worth asking in our marriages: Have we stopped doing the things that once helped our relationship grow and flourish?

If you realize your “first love” has cooled, consider a few steps. Acknowledge what you’ve stopped doing. Reflect on the habits, rituals, or small gestures that once built intimacy and joy. Choose one and reintroduce it. Some activities may no longer be possible, but many can be revived in new ways.

Think of something your spouse once loved doing with you. If they still do it but you stopped joining them, ask if you can come along. It may surprise them but it might also rekindle something meaningful. Keep reaching out. Keep trying.

As Revelation 2:5 encourages—do the things you did at first. Rekindle what may have faded. Restore what was lost.